Who do we give it to? From political leaders and religious icons to the person walking down the street, generally speaking we give our power away to anyone we think can make our journey on earth easier, safer, and pain-free; anyone who convinces us they have a quick fix, or will do the work for us, or take our problems away; anyone who will protect us from the consequences of traveling on this earth plane. Besides people, we give our power to an assortment of belief systems, thoughts and ideologies that promise the above.

It is ironic. Even though we each chose to experience this journey in the earth dimension, the first thing we will trade in is that very experience. When we encounter the difficult bumps in the road, we want to give up, get out, medicate, or turn the whole thing over to someone else to do for us.

Does it work?  Never. Giving our power away leads us into bigger problems, bigger bumps, more complicated consequences, and general unhappiness. Giving our power away ultimately leads to disappointments, feelings of betrayal, and massive participation in the blame game. It is a waste of our energy, for giving  power to others can never produce any worthwhile or long-lasting results. How ironic, again, that when the person or belief system we’ve given our power to doesn’t give us the promised goods, we turn on it or them.  It does not occur to us to question whether giving our power to anyone or anything in the first place was a good idea. It does not occur to us to ask if we ourselves are responsible. Instead, we kill the king, martyr the savior, divorce the partner …and promptly look for another. Out comes our silver platter with our power placed on it, asking for takers, asking for someone or something else to be responsible for our journey. Around and around we go through the centuries, missing the opportunity each time to realize the problem isn’t with them, it is with us and our endless willingness to give our power away.

The fact is, no one can do the journey for you. Further, you don’t really need anyone or anything to do it for you because you carry within yourself all the tools that you need. One secret ingredient that will help you walk your path powerfully is something no one likes to talk about: pain. You must be willing to feel your pain. Pain is common to the human journey, and everyone’s path is painful. Pain is not as bad as you may think. It is much better than the suffering that entails when you give your power to others or to a belief system in the false hope of getting rid of the pain you must encounter on your journey.  When we are willing to be OK with the pain, we are much less likely to give our power away because we’ll have removed one of the main reasons why we give away power to others in the first place. We will also be less likely to medicate for the same reason.  We’ll know that medicating is just an avoidance of those difficult and painful bumps which we all must eventually face.

The word power has a very solid and grounded feel to it, and you feel it the more you claim your  journey. When you take your power back and keep your energy within your own path, it is available for you to use in facing those obstacles and bumps on your road.   You can have friends, guides, teachers, supporters, leaders by your side, but the obstacles in your path are yours alone to face. No one can ever stand in that spot on your path but you. Everyone else is on the sidelines of your journey. It is unfair to others to try to place your obstacles in their lap, even if they ask for them. You must walk your walk yourself, every single inch of it. That is power.  You can’t help but feel powerful when you really get that you are absolutely and completely responsible for your responses and how you use your energy on a path that is uniquely all yours.

How do you keep your power, then? You need to be willing to keep your power. You need to be aware of the age-old human tendency to place power on a platter and hand it over to others and others’ belief systems in an attempt to avoid pain, and resist that tendency. It is very subtle, so be aware that we do it often, in all sorts of small and large ways. You need to be aware that while others may give you pieces of the puzzle, you’ll have to put them together yourself. The path you journey on is yours alone to figure out, and by doing so, you and your path become authentic and powerful testimonials to your spiritual energy.

The final irony in the human weakness to relinquish our power and our path is that we are each extremely powerful and sophisticated spiritual energies, or we would not have contemplated journeying to this very difficult human dimension.  More than contemplating, we have all decided to actually experience it!  Power is your middle name. So the next time you are tempted to place your power outside yourself and look for a new leader, a new ideology, a new savior to bring you happiness and smooth out the painful obstacles on your road, know that a portion of your spiritual energy is having a huge ‘belly-laugh’ over the absurdness of such a situation!

AAh, if that were only true.  But alas, we humans are much more powerful than we’d like to admit, and with a little clarity on this subject, we might be motivated to get off our fantasy float forever and become a lot more productive… and happier.

Fantasies are about the future. They are made-up scenarios that make us feel good, or so we think. In reality, fantasies medicate us from showing up in real time. They keep us from taking stock of what is in our ‘now’.

“But wait!”, you say. “I did show up in my ‘now’. And it stinks. And that’s exactly why I am building plenty of fantasies.”

It is true that for many of us, the present we find ourselves in is not exactly what we desire. But if we linger long enough, we will also discover the next step that is actualizable for us in this ‘now’.  This step is golden and well worth giving up your fantasies for, because it will lead you out of “what stinks” onto the path that will take you to your heart’s desires. If you spend your time fantasizing about the future, you will never be around in the now to see the real steps that are possible–and even necessary–for you right now.  

Spotted Eagle, a spirit guide, likes to say, “We’re always at the airport when our ship comes in.”  You can trust that the universe is bringing in your ship every moment, but are you here to see it? If we can discipline ourselves to ditch the airplane ride to fantasy island and keep ourselves in real time, one moment at a time, we will find we no longer have the need for fantasies.

But first, we need to understand the present moment. Contrary to popular New Age beliefs, the present  moment is not for the faint of heart….  
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